Honest

“This is where I’m at.”

A men’s group for those ready to stop performing strength and start embodying it. Built on a simple belief: men were never meant to carry all of it alone.

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As heard on ESPN Radio. Josh on Austin Supper Club: The Honest Man, on the record. Watch the interview →
The Old Script

Every man knows
the rules by heart.

For too long, masculinity has been defined by extremes. The script was handed down without anyone asking whether it worked, and most men have spent their lives reciting it.

I
Be tough.
II
Be successful.
III
Provide.
IV
Don’t complain.
V
Don’t cry.
VI
Handle your shit.

The script told a man what to be. It never asked him how he was doing, and it left him alone with the rest.

Where It Began

Never meant to
carry it alone.

Honest was not built from theory. It was built from what the weight actually feels like.

Honest was founded from lived experience: addiction, loss, trauma, failure, and healing. Not studied from a distance, but carried, one season at a time, by the men who built it. What that experience taught them was simple. The weight was never the problem. Carrying it alone was.

Most men learned early to perform instead of tell the truth. Fine at work, fine at home, fine everywhere: fine, always fine, right up until it wasn’t. The husband, the father, the addict, the executive, the man rebuilding his life. Each one carrying more than he says. Each one convinced he is the only one.

The work is integration: healing addiction, anger, marital strain, or a life characterized by chaos, and reclaiming the parts of ourselves we’ve hidden. Not to live in the wound, but to discover that you can lead your life, the people you love, and your community with clarity, courage, and integrity.

Honest exists to end that isolation. We don’t tell men what masculinity is supposed to look like. We create a space where they can discover what it means for themselves, in the company of men doing the same.

At Honest, we believe masculinity can hold all of it.
What We Believe

Most men were told to pick a side: strong or soft, faithful or in therapy, successful or struggling. Honest was built on the conviction that a whole man holds both.

Strength&vulnerability
Faith&therapy
Discipline&compassion
Success&failure
Grace&accountability

Not either, or. Both, held honestly.

The mission: an environment rich with honesty, accountability, and relational engagement, where strength is built through emotional vulnerability instead of isolation.

The Path
I
Heal the boy.

Face what happened. Reclaim the parts of yourself you’ve hidden. The work starts where the wound did.

II
Lead the man.

Carry what the healing gives you back into your life, the people you love, and your community.

III
Live with integrity.

Close the gap between the man inside and the man the world sees. Clarity. Courage. Integrity.

The Conversations

What men actually carry.

No small talk. No highlight reels. We talk about the shit men actually carry, and we talk about it out loud.

Marriage
Fatherhood
Addiction
Sex
Money
Anger
Grief
Purpose
Faith
Insecurity
Loneliness
Ambition

And the constant pressure to have it all figured out.

The Daily Check-In
Because sometimes the strongest thing a man can say is:
“This is where I’m at.”
And the room answers, every time:
“We will take you where you’re at.”

Five words, said out loud, to men who are listening. The daily check-in is the heartbeat of Honest: no polish, no performance, just the truth about today. Wherever you start, the room starts with you. And it will not leave you there.

Start your first check-in
How It Works

Simple practices.
Real relationships.

Honest runs on rhythms a man can actually keep. Nothing complicated, nothing performative: a daily pulse, a weekly table, and a standard of truth that turns strangers into brothers.

Daily Check-Ins

The Heartbeat

Every day, each man tells the group where he’s at. Not where he wishes he was. Not where he’s supposed to be. Where he actually is. Then one question to carry into the day: what’s mine to do now?

Starts with five words: this is where I’m at
A brotherhood that reads, responds, and remembers
Presence first; nobody is required to fix anybody

Weekly Groups

The Table

A standing group each week where the masks come off. Structured enough to go deep, small enough that every voice matters and every absence is felt.

Topics drawn from what men actually carry
Confidential, consistent, and led from within
Show up as you are; leave more honest than you came

Honest Conversations

The Standard

One rule inside every room: tell the truth. No posturing, no resume talk, no performing strength for an audience of men doing the same.

Truth over image, every time
Questions asked to understand, not to judge
What’s said in the room stays in the room

Real Relationships

The Point

The check-ins and the groups are the scaffolding. The building is friendship: men who actually know each other, and stay when the weather turns.

Men who notice when you go quiet
Trust built the slow way: kept commitments, owned mistakes
The kind of friends a man can call at 2 a.m.
Joshua Heater, facilitator of The Honest Man
The Facilitator

Joshua Heater

Clinical trainee, practicing under the supervision of Dr. Eboni L. Ceasar

The Honest Man is a safe space by design, not by accident. Josh facilitates every group with a blend of clinical structure and personal approach: trained enough to hold the room professionally, human enough to sit in it as a man among men.

The group is HIPAA regulated. What gets said in the room is protected, so the work can go where it needs to go.

HIPAA regulated and professionally supervised
A clinical and a personal approach, together
Open to men aged 28 to 55
A blend of online and in-person meetings
Hear Josh tell it himselfThe Austin Supper Club interview, as heard on ESPN Radio. The full conversation.
From the Room
“I didn’t join this group because my life was falling apart. It wasn’t. I joined because I knew drinking was keeping me from being the man I’m capable of being, and I had never said that out loud to anyone. Saying it in this room changed things. Nobody flinched, and nobody made excuses for me either. These men show up every week, they tell the truth, and they expect the same from me. I’m sober now, and I’m a better father, husband, friend, and leader because of it. I’m grateful for this room and these men. Every man deserves one like it.”
M.H. · Member
“It’s hard to put it into words how truly important this group is to me. Before Honest Man, I struggled to have authentic relationships with other men. Since joining, I feel a deeper sense of accountability, trust, community, and faith.”
D. · Member
Letters from Josh

Written the way
the room talks.

Every so often, Josh writes it down: what the room keeps teaching, what the script cost us, and what changes when a man finally says the true thing. No polish. No performance.

August 2026 · The First Letter
Why This Room Exists

Honest was not built from a theory. It was built from what the weight actually feels like, and from learning the hard way that the weight was never the problem. Carrying it alone was.

Read the letter
August 2026 · Letter No. 2 · From the Book
The Mask Was Brilliant

Nineteen years old, a new city, and a room full of strangers screaming his name. From the book Josh is writing: the years the mask worked, and the truth he never said sober. “Being desired publicly felt safer than being known privately.”

Read the letter
August 2026 · Letter No. 3 · From the Book
Pour Us a Shot

The worst call of his life came at 11 p.m. on a packed Saturday, and the mask took it. About his sister, a missed message, and what it costs to hold a room when nobody is holding you.

Read the letter
August 2026 · Letter No. 4 · From the Book
The Man Who Asked If I Was Okay

Nineteen and wrecked, and one man didn’t rush, didn’t joke, didn’t look away. What showing up actually looks like, and why the room is built on it. “He didn’t try to fix me. He didn’t tell me to toughen up.”

Read the letter

A new letter lands when there is something worth saying.

“This is where I’m at.”

Strength without armor.

Honest isn’t about fixing broken men. It’s a community where men stop performing strength and start embodying it: the script gets set down, the five words get said, and every man finds out he was never carrying it alone. If that sounds like the room you’ve been looking for, it’s ready for you.

1Check in right here, or by text or email. Two sentences is plenty.
2Josh gets back to you personally, and the first conversation is private.
3You start where you are. The room takes it from there.
Ready to build your purpose?
Two things matter: a way to reach you, and where you’re at.
Received.

And the room answers, every time: “We will take you where you’re at.”
Josh will be in touch personally. What you wrote stays between you and him.

Text the five words · Call +1-702-469-2774 · joshua@elixiraustin.co
Confidential from the first message. No commitment attached.